44. Lookalikes and new born differences

At birth, we were told that Robin and Sam were twins because they had been sharing a placenta. When I was pregnant, it was T2 and T3. Rob and Sam. (Their numbers are different to their birth numbers). But when they were born, Robin was so wonky, and Sam and William looked so alike, it was decided that maybe it was Sam and Will. 

Robin was born with a very squashed head. It was long and flat and his forhead was quite pointy. Because of this, he is very jowly too. He has been a very unusual looking baby! Sam and William however, have had perfectly round little tennis ball heads, and it has been very difficult to tell the difference between them. Wills chin is slightly less rounded, his nose ever so slightly smaller and turned up and his ears are very slightly pointier, altogether very elegant features. His complexion is also a little paler and James sees a difference in their eye angle when they are closed. Overall, he has always been very slightly more angular than Sam. All incredibly subtle differences and people who don't spent lots of time with them can't see the differences. 

Sam and Will were so similar sometimes that even James and I have our moments of getting them mixed up, so we resorted to a tiny dot of blue nail varnish on Wills fingernail. It has actually been really useful for many occasions, most people, us in the middle of the night and during moments of confusion. Basically, all the time!

Still now, 8 weeks in, Robin still has a distinctive look in comparison to the other two. But his head is a much better shape and I'm starting to get confused between him and Sam now! From the top, his head is still quite long, but the side profile of Rob and Sam now is nearly identical! He is still the easiest to identify, but him and Sam are really becoming alike and we are thinking more and more that they may be the twins. 

Also, when Sam was in hospital, Rob was unsettled, and when I was in hospital with Robin, Sam was unsettled. Is it a twin thing?


New born challenges vs triplets

I have 2 friends who's estimated due dates were 1 week after ours, and they have both had their babies now. A boy and a girl. We are in a messaging group together and the 3 of us have been pinging messages of support and questions back and forth and it's been lovely. Their experiences are really bringing back memories of Jack as a newborn that I haven't been experiencing with these three. The comparisons are quite surprising to be honest! They are both breast feeding and there has been a lot of talk about how difficult the first dew days feeding have been and how the nights are relentless. They also reminded me of the fact that the baby won't be separated from mum. Leaving the room is an absolute no no, showers need to be carefully timed and rushed, and the only person who can comfort them is mum, preferably with boob. The screamingly obvious thing is breastfeeding. The tie is intense. I loved it with Jack but I can't imagine being so tied to these 3! There really is no break in the first days and weeks with breastfeeding so I take my hats off to them both right now. Let's be honest, I've got it easy because James gets up to feed them for a big chunk of the night so I can sleep. These lovely ladies can't do that yet. But I bet they wouldn't change it for the world. I know I wouldn't!

I've had none of these new born things with these three. The girls keep calling me superwoman because we have 3 tiny babies to deal with, but I honestly think I am having the easier ride at the moment. They are not clingy, anybody can feed them with a bottle, and they happily go to sleep in their cots. They also couldn't care less if I'm in the room or not! Don't get me wrong, they definitely settle with me very quickly, and James often tells me how difficult they have been during his shift in comparison to mine, but that might just be because we do things differently. I like to think its the mum thing.

We are regularly putting them in the pram in the garden at the moment so I can enjoy the sunshine. They sleep really well in the pram most of the time thankfully. 

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